MAIN ERRORS OF PARENTS
We suggest you familiarize yourself with the two most common mistakes made by parents in the process of raising children.
The main mistakes of parents
Parents always try to be good, properly educate their baby, make sure that the child grows up as a worthy person, etc. This is very difficult, especially if the first child appears in the family. Therefore, on the way to the title of best parents, mothers and fathers make many mistakes.
To avoid this, we suggest you familiarize yourself with the two most common mistakes that parents make in raising children.
WHY IT IS NOT RECOMMENDED TO RESTRICT A CHILD’S DESIRE?
From the height of their age and experience, parents are sure that they know how it will be better for their baby, and at the same time they often prevent him from achieving his goal. It all starts with completely innocent bans. For example, a child wants to ride a slide, but his mother does not allow him because it is dangerous, unhygienic, wet, etc. Then, the prohibitions of parents become more global – do not go to that specialty, do not marry that girl, do not give birth to so many children …
Remember, you cannot live life for a child. Did he soak his pants on a hill or “fill” a bruise while riding a bicycle? Nothing wrong. This is his own experience, thanks to which he will understand that it’s unpleasant to ride on a wet hill, and you must be careful when riding a bicycle. It’s better to let him experience disappointment at the fact that he could not become a great singer, than he regrets all his life that he did not try to realize his dream.
Your task is to provide your child with all the conditions for harmonious development and provide him with comprehensive assistance and support. But in no case do not try to live his own life for him.
IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIMENTS FOR CHILD
Many parents do not give independence to their baby, because they are sure that they themselves will do everything much better and faster. For example, a mother does not encourage her daughter’s desire to iron her clothes, because she is sure that she will ruin her. But how then will the child understand how to perform this or that action correctly? Yes, perhaps your favorite dress will be burned, but this is again a certain experience, without which your daughter will never learn how to iron.
WHY A CHILD SHOULD SOLVE ITS PROBLEMS EXCLUSIVELY INDEPENDENTLY?
Moms always try to protect their children, this instinct is literally in their blood. Naturally, for the time being, it is not only possible, but necessary, to solve the problems of the child. However, as soon as he enters the period of a conscious age, this must be tied. No one doubts that mom will feel much calmer if she decides important issues of her child herself, but only the child will get used to it. In the future, he will always mentally look for his mother next to him in order to entrust her with a solution to the problem. Such a person can never live an adult, independent life.
DISCLAIMER OF PROHIBITIONS
There are obvious things that cannot be done. For example, you cannot:
to put fingers in sockets,
play with matches;
chat with strangers, etc.
But some things are categorically forbidden. When a child constantly hears the words “no” and “impossible” from his parents, it seems to him that any of his actions is bad, and he becomes passive. The fact is that “it is impossible” should be pronounced only when the life of the child is in real danger, otherwise the word loses its meaning and its effectiveness.
THE MAIN THING IS INTELLIGENCE!
When raising a child, most parents focus on the development of their intelligence, forgetting the importance of developing imaginative thinking. They regularly take their children to classes on early development, strive to teach them reading, counting and writing as early as possible, give preference to various encyclopedias, but forget about fairy tales and poems. As a result, young intellectuals can list all dinosaurs or talk about how the computer works, but they don’t believe in Santa Claus, they don’t know who Dunno or Cheburashka is.
However, experts are sure that the baby’s intellectual development is directly related to his ability to mentally reproduce and carry out certain actions, to fantasize and dream, that is, with imaginative thinking. The stronger it is developed in a child, the higher his ability to learn, and therefore to obtain intellectual knowledge and skills. After all, it is with the help of bright and fascinating images of the baby that one can be interested in any activity and field of knowledge. It will be with great pleasure that he draw with a Magic Wand than with an ordinary brush, or sculpt figures from Magic Clay than with ordinary plasticine.
In addition, excessive enthusiasm for developing centers and driving encyclopedic knowledge into the child’s head often entails the restriction of simple communication between parents and children. Moms and dads simply do not have enough time to just talk with their child, find out about his experiences and desires, indulge in meaningless, but such a fun “do-nothing”,…