HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH A TEACHER?
For parents who give their child to the care of a teacher or teacher, the question of how to make friends with a teacher is far from idle. They are well aware that establishing contact with the teacher will help, first of all, the child. And you need to start building friendships with the teacher already in kindergarten.
How to make friends with a teacher?
At about the age of three, when there is a need for preschool education, children begin a period of constant and prolonged communication with adults and children who are not members of the family. And sometimes it’s not easy enough to accustom the baby to the idea that now he is not the “center of the Universe”, that the group has the same children who need attention. At the same time, absolutely everyone is worried – both parents and teachers.
The first meeting with the teacher allows parents to make a superficial assessment of the teacher. The educator is in a no less difficult situation: he will have to get acquainted with a new group of pupils and their families, each of which is a “casket” with secrets. And in order to “pick up the keys” for the child, the educator needs to find out under what conditions and how the child was raised before joining his first team in life. But the hardest thing for a child! He will have to get used to strangers and surroundings, sometimes to a completely unusual regime of the day, new rules that will have to be obediently followed, contrary to domestic habits.
LEARN TO MANAGE THE MOTHER’S INSTINCT
In a child’s communication with a teacher, teacher, or other strangers, much depends on his mother’s behavior. Mom, as the most important person in the life of a baby, who is an ideal example for absolute imitation, as a rule, surrounds the baby with comprehensive care and adoration. Therefore, it is not surprising that the child begins to feel his significance and uniqueness. Of course, from time to time, the baby is spoiled by the attention and care of friends and family. But even at such meetings, the child is the main character in the dialogue, causing tenderness and tenderness in adults.
In kindergarten, the communication scenario develops according to other rules. There, in the group, there is one educator and many children who are also used to being the central figure in their family. Naturally, over time, the teacher will get to know each of them and try to teach all children how to communicate with each other. But during the adaptation period, the calm and poise of the child largely depends on the joint work of the teacher and parents.
To make it easier for the child to get used to the new environment, try to give him the experience of communicating with strangers before he crosses the threshold of kindergarten. For example, a walk in the park, on the playground, next to other children and parents who are not entering the house, will help the baby realize that not the whole Universe revolves around him, that there are other children who, like him, are loved by others, completely unfamiliar adults.
Help him get used to the idea that he is not the only one so beloved and exceptional, and do not rush like a lioness to rush to his defense if the kid suddenly quarrels in the sandbox with one of the children. It is also not worth quarreling and sorting out relationships with children with the mother of another baby. Let the child learn to agree on his own – just watch him and tell him a little what to do.
Remember: you do not always have to follow the maternal instinct. It is designed for the most emergency cases when the baby is in real danger. A loving mother should think about how successfully the child will cope with problems without her presence and participation, and therefore every day to prepare him for an independent life (sometimes to the detriment of his own peace of mind).
DO NOT WAIT FROM THE TEACHER “BLIND” OF LOVE
Friendship with a teacher raising your child can literally not take place. Do not expect that the teacher will spend all his day on caring and attention only to your child. But building a constructive dialogue and fruitful cooperation for the benefit of the child is a prerequisite for all participants in the educational process.
Never forget the following rules:
Be fair and objective in relation to the teacher. Be patient and loyal in getting to know each other, give time for the educator to get to know your child.
Gently tell about the character of the baby, his habits, hobbies, without requiring the same attitude and special conditions for your child. The teacher himself will understand what can be reproduced in the team and what cannot be, what he should pay attention to, and what can be ignored.
Tell us about the relationships in your family so that the teacher can understand the environment in which the baby is brought up. No need to fear condemnation from his side. The educator needs information, as does the doctor, to whom patients tell about their problems in anticipation of effective care
Do not expect from the teacher continuous admiration and praise only for your child.